What your employees won’t say could be what you most need to hear.
Your employees have a lot of thoughts. Most of those thoughts they donโt share– especially with you.
At times their silence is a good thing, especially where your ego or their employment status might be concerned, but their silence also may keep you from understanding what your employers really think and what they really need from you.
Consider whether your employees might be thinking one or more of the following:
1. โPlease donโt talk to me about your personal life.โ Talking about subjects that arenโt work related helps build a personal relationship, but many people fall back on talking about themselves when they donโt know the other person well. Employees, especially new employees, have no interest in hearing about your go-to topics like your last vacation or your antique collection or your beach house.
New employees want to feel like they belong, but more importantly they want to know how theyโre doing. Long-term employees want to know you care about them; talking about yourself only shows you care about yourself.
2. โCanโt you see Iโm really busy?โ Hereโs what happens. You stop by to talk, the employee stops what theyโre doing to chat with youโฆ and when you walk away theyโre behind and have to catch up. Employees want to talk to you, but they have work to do, too. Sometimes thereโs an easy answer, especially if the employeeโs job involves physical tasks: Help out while you talk. Not only will your employee appreciate a little help, your conversation will be less forced. In other settings, pick your spots carefully.
Never interrupt an employee who is busy simply because today youโve decided to โcheck in with the troops.โ
3. โI can tell you really donโt care about my personal life.โ Walking up and asking an employee a generic question like, โHey, how are your, um, kids?โ or, โAre you doing anything fun after work?โ or, โHey, who do you think will win the cricket worldcup this year?โ comes across as forced and insincere, at least to your employees. Either take the time to get to know your employees well enough so you can have a decent conversation or just stick to work-related subjects. (Employees definitely prefer โall businessโ to โpseudo-personal.โ)
One way to show employees you care about them as people is to follow the 20% rule: When youโre talking to employees, never talk more than 20% of the time. The single best way to show you care is to listen.
4. โYou claim you respect meโฆ so give me something important to do.โ Assigning an employee a critical task is a definite sign of respect. Do it as often as you can.
5. โYou claim you trust meโฆ so give me something important to do and let me decide how to do it.โ Itโs only natural to tell your employees how to do their jobs; after all, itโs your business. Still, when you assign a project without providing a lot of direction your employees instantly know you respect their abilities and trust their judgment.
Employees appreciate respect; they love trust.
6. โActually, I would like to work here a long time.โ The average person switches jobs a number of times before theyโre 30-years-old. Some leave for money, but many leave because they canโt stand their boss. No matter what your industry, high employee turnover doesnโt have to be a fact of employment life. Find out why employees leave and address the causes. Itโs stressful to change jobs, so most employees wonโt start job searching until you give them a reason to.
Watch, listen, take smart actionsโฆ do your job right and most of your employees will stay.
7. โThat gift card is nice, but a simple โthanksโ is really all I need.โ Sure, every time you hand out paychecks youโre implicitly saying thanks, but not really. Find reasons to thank your employees as often as you can. Look for an accomplishment, however small or fleeting, and express your appreciation. โThanks for taking care of that difficult customer.โ โThanks for jumping in and helping Ms. Sweta.โ โThanks for letting me know we have a problem in the warehouse; I hadnโt realized orders were consistently shipping late.โ
Say thanks benefits both of you: The employee feels appreciated, and you get a great way to start a meaningful conversation.

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